Loving someone is no guarantee for a smooth and blissful relationship.
While this feeling is important, there are other factors to consider so
as to know whether you should stay in that relationship or break away
from it.
A guy and a girl
using any means possible to find a way to be together — against all
odds. The reason this is possible can be easily identified — They are in
love. They are crazy about each other. They’d kill to be with
themselves. But that is how it should be in movies. Off the screen, our reality, love cannot always be enough to make a relationship work. To be frank, the baggages that come with love are as intense at the feeling itself. I’ve seen people stay in unhealthy relationship, unhappy marriages, unfulfilling courtship, all in the name of “I love him.” or “My love for her is so strong.” Don’t get me wrong, i’m not against it, being in love is an amazing
experience, but we must know that the feeling alone is not the key to
long—lasting and ever—sweet relationships. Here are some things that
should tell you it might be time to end it with him or her:
1. Not Getting What You Need
Every human being has something he or she wants in a relationship.
These needs can be financial, emotional, social or functional. If one
person feels the other isn’t doing enough to meet these requirements, it
is best to talk about it. After the talk, if things remain the same, it
might be time to move on. People tend to stay in relationships like
this because of a certain tag society places on single people
“especially if age is no longer on your side.” This is not as important
as your happiness so it is best to do what is best for you, and not for
what people will say.
2. Preferring Outsiders
When you achieve a target, or you get promoted at work, or you
decided to finally share a secret with someone, who should be the first
to know? Ideally, it should be your man/woman. If it is your colleague
at work, a recent friend, your cousin or school daughter you open up to
first then something is not right in your relationship. Seeking advice
from outsiders or sharing a great news with people outside of your
relationship is a clear sign that you should consider ending things once
and for all.
3. Afraid To Ask For More
When you demand more from your partner, more in the sense of what
you want or do not want in your relationship, you are on the right path.
The world might say it makes you sound clingy or needy but there is
absolutely nothing wrong with it. It is better than not speaking up and
faking contentment just so you don’t lose him/her. That will only weigh
you down physically and emotionally. Hiding your true feeling about your
partner can only prolong what you are not happy about. It is better to
say something and know where you stand. If possible, break up with him
or her and save yourself years of misery in future.
4. Staying In It Because You Think You Have To
Some people are of the opinion that staying in a relationship that
you have invested time and effort in makes a lot of sense. But investing
more time and effort in a relationship that is one—sided will only
delay the inevitable — A break—up. It is better you both go your
seperate ways now that it is clear things are not working.
5. Not Liking Your Man/Woman
This might sound confusing but it is very possible. Experts say you
can actually be in love with someone you don’t like. A relationship with
this person can make you guys happy when the going is good, but
experiencing difficult times together can be a very horrible experience.
Couples will disagree, but those in cute, amazing relationships keep
the mindset that no matter what, they are in it together. It might still
be a daunting task to quit a relationship with someone you love but
most times, if it is clearly not leading anywhere, it is better to think
with your brain than your heart.
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