Known as the “Queen of All Media,” Oprah Winfrey is a media mogul, actress,
producer and philanthropist. Over the years, she has inspired many as the host
of “The Oprah Winfrey Show” (1986-2011) and is widely recognized as one of the
most influential women in the world. We look at highlights from her life and
career so far. Oprah Winfrey has revealed why she never married her partner, despite them
being together for more than 30 years. In an essay published in O Magazine, the media mogul opened up about
her relationship with Stedman Graham, who proposed in 1993. The 65-year-old said that there is a good reason the couple never tied the
knot, admitting that she had doubts shortly after they got engaged. “I realised I didn’t actually want a marriage,” Winfrey wrote. “I wanted to be asked. I wanted to know he felt I was worthy of being his
missus, but I didn’t want the sacrifices, the compromises, the day-in-day-out
commitment required to make a marriage work. My life with the show was my
priority, and we both knew it.” The chat show host went on to explain that both she and Graham believe that
if they had got married they would not still be together. Instead, Winfrey attributes the longevity of their relationship to Graham
having an identity beyond being “Oprah's man,” as well as the fact that they
“relish seeing the other fulfil and manifest their destiny and purpose.” “Anyone who’s ever met him is always amazed by what a genuine gentleman he
is,” Winfrey wrote. “He’s so positive. Wants the best for me and everyone he knows. He’s
appropriately named because he’s steady as a mountain. Even-tempered,
accountable, trustworthy, patient.” The author went on to reveal that she defines her relationship with Stedman
as a “spiritual partnership”, citing spiritual teacher Gary Zukav's definition
of the term, which is a “partnership between equals for the purpose of spiritual
growth.
“What I know for sure is that speaking your truth is the most powerful tool
we all have. And I’m especially proud, and inspired by all the women who have
felt strong enough and empowered enough to speak up and share their personal
stories. This isn’t the first time Winfrey has spoken about her decision to not marry
or have children. Last year, the philanthropist explained that much of the reason she decided
against expanding her family was because she witnessed “the depth of
responsibility and sacrifice that is actually required to be a mother” during
her years on The Oprah Winfrey Show. “I realised, ‘Whoa, I’m talking to a lot of messed-up people, and they are
messed up because they had mothers and fathers who were not aware of how serious
that job is,'” Winfrey told People magazine. “I don’t have the ability to compartmentalise the way I see other women do.
It is why, throughout my years, I have had the highest regard for women who
choose to be at home [with] their kids, because I don’t know how you do that all
day long. “Nobody gives women the credit they deserve.” Winfrey added that she has “no regrets” about her decision, adding that she
has “filled that maternal fold” with charitable work. “I also believe that part of the reason why I don’t have regrets is because I
got to fulfil it in the way that was best for me: the Oprah Winfrey Leadership
Academy for Girls in South Africa,” she says. “Those girls fill that maternal fold that I perhaps would have had. In fact,
they overfill — I’m overflowed with maternal."
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