The biggest lies about love that you may believe

There isn't a single formula or list of rules about love. Every relationship is unique and everyone behaves and relates to love in different ways. The base of any relationship is trust and respect, although there are many false (yet popular) ideas about how to love another person. According to Margarida Vieite, a specialist in family therapy at the University of Seville, many of these misleading ideas seem romantic, but in reality may actually be quite toxic. 

Don't let yourself get fooled by the following lies about love!

If you are jealous, you are crazy about me!

According to Margarida Vieite, a specialist in family therapy at the University of Seville, when our partner is over-the-top jealous, it's a sign that they need help. Jealousy reveals deep-seeded insecurity, low self-esteem, and can be a sign of an obsessive disorder.

Love at first sight

Love is reciprocal and requires hard works, acceptance, and forgiveness. According to the specialist, it arises from mutual appreciation and trust.

Now that I won you over, you're mine! 

 Winning over your significant other is a daily process. We don't belong to anyone but ourselves, and people are not possessions.

If you don't call me after a first date, you don't love me.

Calm down! No one falls in love at first sight. Even if the date was incredible for both people, not calling the next day doesn't necessarily mean that the other person is not interested. According to Margarida Vieite, love involves getting to know and discover who the other person is. It requires time.

My other half is out there somewhere...

You don't need another person to feel complete. You already are.

Love means doing everything together!

Doing activities together is great, but loving someone also means giving them the freedom to live their own lives and do things alone or with friends, family, and coworkers. Everyone needs to respect the individuality of their partner.

You say that you like me, but I need to pressure you to be with me.

If someone really loves another person, they will make time to be with them even if they are busy, according to the family therapist.

I believe you love me but you criticize, blame, and laugh at me.

Some people have distorted ideas about love. Putting down another person, laughing at them, or blaming them for something they have no control over is definitely not love. 

If you love me, do everything I say.

Some people have distorted ideas about love. Putting down another person, laughing at them, or blaming them for something they have no control over is definitely not love.